We all tell lies, for one reason or another. People from all walks of life do it. Sometimes it is so much easier to say something that is not true. Other times we do it to prevent hurting another person’s feelings. We all know it’s wrong, both spiritually and morally, but why do we do it? Most lies stem from being dishonest about who we are, what we are, something we are ashamed, to make others people look bad, all leading to the same result..for the world to perceive us differently.
The need to intentionally deceive others come about through a lack of confidence is one’s self while some lack the courage to become who they really want to be. So instead, we create fantasies about ourselves. Examples of these derive from lying about our ages, weight, accomplishments, cover up for our shortcomings and the need to wrongfully accuse and spread rumours about others. Lies are easily detected simply because they are not true. They lack logic, conviction and consistency. Of course, there are pathological liars who can make lies seem very convincing.
Children are introduced to telling lies at a very early age by observing their parents. A simple act as telling a young child to answer the phone and relay a message that you are not at home may seem harmless. There was an instance where a four year old child was reprimanded for saying her mother’s age. Do we think about the impact actions like these have on young, impressionable minds? Children are thought not to tell lies, yet they see their parents and others act otherwise. This double standard confuses them and the value of honestly and truthfulness is not fully comprehended.
Some people believe it is okay to say “white lies”. This term was derived to separate good lies from bad ones so one does not appear to be as deceptive as other liars. The fact is, all lies are wrong and they all result in lack of trust and disrespect.
People who are very good at telling lies appear to be honest and sincere. They may be looking for attention and pity. Have you ever heard someone relate an incident and the impact of it gets more intense each time it is narrated? Some people feel it makes him or her less of a person by admitting to being wrong, so they engage in compounding lie upon lie to prove themselves right rather than confessing the truth. The truth never dies, regardless of how many times the same occurrence is voiced and a person who owns up to the truth will gain respect.
Since there is no tangible evidence that derive from telling lies, people allow themselves to believe that it is okay to be untruthful. What if, for every fib we tell, we throw a stone in a bucket. We might be amazed at how quickly that bucket will fill up. Or, for every lie that proceed out of our mouths and hearts, a wart grew on our bodies…or our noses grew! Then the world will have a completely different outlook on telling lies.
Even though it is impossible for humans not to tell lies, we need to be more conscious of what we say to people and about people. After all, there is nothing more honourable and valuable in life than being respected and trusted.